Wednesday, January 11, 2006
I've never in my life had as few friends as I have now.
Especially since moving to the boonies and having this baby; I'm just so isolated. I've always been the type to have one boyfriend and one close friend, but then lots and lots of work/party/downtown friends and acquaintances. Lately though I feel like they've been dropping like flies. They move away or they have jobs that don't work well with my having a toddler on my hip 24/7 (well, maybe 20/6) but anymore there are just fewer and fewer people that I could just call up and suggest coffee or a movie or just to hang out.
I've been spending a bit of time getting to know some local moms through an attachment parenting message board I frequent but even still, cultivating new friendships takes a lot of time and energy. It's not overnight that people become close enough to just drop in on or call for childcare while you run to the grocery or something. Like with playgroups, I'd love to have a standing group to be part of once a week or so; currently this group of moms is trying to set something up but the most we can ever make happen is once a month. You know, it's like if one person is busy we try for another day and if someone else is busy that day we try for another day. Before you know it, it's a month later before everyone can make it. Does everyone need to make it to every playgroup? I think not.
I was part of a pretty cool group, they met weekly, drank wine, and watched each others kids while we all hung out and cooked and ate. I don't know what happened though, either it fizzled or I did something wrong and wasn't invited back. I suppose I should just call the group "leader" and find out if it's still meeting, but if it is and I'm not invited then I'm afraid to hear it. I don't know what I would have done though, so I think I'm probably overreacting and maybe they lost my number or something. In any case, I'm afraid to call. I wish I had her email address...
Maybe once Suzie's a bit older and we can get involved with groups in the community it will get better. I love my house and my lake and my view, but I sure wish it didn't take people 1/2 and hour to get here. I drive into town everyday and it's not really a big deal but when I ask people to come out here I feel like they think I'm suggesting the drive across the state.
I'm starving.
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I've been spending a bit of time getting to know some local moms through an attachment parenting message board I frequent but even still, cultivating new friendships takes a lot of time and energy. It's not overnight that people become close enough to just drop in on or call for childcare while you run to the grocery or something. Like with playgroups, I'd love to have a standing group to be part of once a week or so; currently this group of moms is trying to set something up but the most we can ever make happen is once a month. You know, it's like if one person is busy we try for another day and if someone else is busy that day we try for another day. Before you know it, it's a month later before everyone can make it. Does everyone need to make it to every playgroup? I think not.
I was part of a pretty cool group, they met weekly, drank wine, and watched each others kids while we all hung out and cooked and ate. I don't know what happened though, either it fizzled or I did something wrong and wasn't invited back. I suppose I should just call the group "leader" and find out if it's still meeting, but if it is and I'm not invited then I'm afraid to hear it. I don't know what I would have done though, so I think I'm probably overreacting and maybe they lost my number or something. In any case, I'm afraid to call. I wish I had her email address...
Maybe once Suzie's a bit older and we can get involved with groups in the community it will get better. I love my house and my lake and my view, but I sure wish it didn't take people 1/2 and hour to get here. I drive into town everyday and it's not really a big deal but when I ask people to come out here I feel like they think I'm suggesting the drive across the state.
I'm starving.
Comments:
I hear you too...
I moved just over a year ago and no longer have no access to any AP groups and I am now more then an hour away from my past friends...
In my new area, I have found two people that I can really talk to and even one of them is just at a different stage in her life and it is a bit harder... and the other is 30 mintues away....
It is lonely and hard at times, it makes me sad at others....
Though it is not the same, I have made friends online and for the moment it keeps me sane. When my children are older and I am no longer absorbed in certain aspects of parenthood that at the moment I can just not accept, it may just be easier...
Post a CommentI moved just over a year ago and no longer have no access to any AP groups and I am now more then an hour away from my past friends...
In my new area, I have found two people that I can really talk to and even one of them is just at a different stage in her life and it is a bit harder... and the other is 30 mintues away....
It is lonely and hard at times, it makes me sad at others....
Though it is not the same, I have made friends online and for the moment it keeps me sane. When my children are older and I am no longer absorbed in certain aspects of parenthood that at the moment I can just not accept, it may just be easier...
